Your Life Is The Best Life For You

The best life for yourself is the life you have right now. Repeat it again in your head. 

The best life for yourself is the life you have right now. But the one thing that strips joy away from your life is rooting from yourself. We are going to get back to that later. In my personal opinion, we have to do a better job keeping in mind that lifetimes do not exist. It was never plural. There were never multiples of it. There is only ONE LIFE. It is not about how “perfect” your life is because it is subjective. It is about how every pillar of life can only be traced back to the uniqueness of one’s identity. 

 

For starters, no one has the exact same upbringing and background. No matter if you share the same last name or blood. Even siblings who were raised by the same parents and were educated by the same school would never even have the slightest similarities at times. Each individual is curated in their own image by their own characteristics, struggles, talents, relationships, and timing. All those factors are responsible for shaping one’s limits, opinions, desires, dislikes, and even flaws. It means only YOU are built for the life you are living. It may appear often, especially in this day and age, that someone else’s life is better than yours. A lot of platforms are currently full of media that is purely promoting only the surface level perspective of it(life). A lot of people also live their lives that way. Leading to comparisons of one’s unique life to an unrealistic Tiktok or reel of someone spending a greedy amount of money for food that your own mother can make better. People and the media filtering what they want their audience to see, barely even showing a glimpse of the struggles, sacrifices, and the baggage they have to carry. What feels manageable to them might overwhelm you. What satisfies them may not be appealing to you. Which is why the one thing that strips you from joy is literally coming from within you. It is your natural reaction of comparing your life to another person’s life. 

 

The drive to your ambition and feeling of desire as an individual fluctuates and is sensitive compared to the feeling of being satisfied. The dream job becomes something that you dread. The gold medal becomes a dust catcher. Being part of the team is not enough anymore, you want to own it now. If your happiness depends on reaching the next tier, you trap yourself in permanent dissatisfaction. But when you learn to value your present life, you step off that treadmill.

 

“Always gon' be a whip that's better than the one you got. Always gon' be some clothes that's fresher than the ones you rock

Always gon' be a b-ch that's badder out there on the tours. But you ain't never gon' be happy 'til you love yours”

 

 A verse from a song by an artist named J. Cole, called “Love Yourz”. I chose this lyric because it truly resonates with the perspective that I want to promote. It depicts another lens on how to view your life. Emphasizing that happiness comes from appreciating your own life rather than chasing someone else’s. The words “Always gon’ be” are repeated in both verses highlighting that comparing your life from another person does not end. There will always be someone who has more. If people continue measuring their lives against others, they will constantly feel like they are lacking something. 

 

For the final time, the best life for yourself is the life you have right now. It is your life and you should own it. Every blessing, flaw, experience, and memory is all yours. Instead of asking yourself what can make your life better, ask yourself why your life is already good. It doesn’t tell you to stop dreaming.  It tells you not to abandon yourself while dreaming. Ambition without appreciation creates emptiness. But ambition with gratitude creates fulfillment.